Tuesday, March 4, 2014
Eileen Gonzalez - LIFE ACCORDING TO ME : That Person!
Eileen Gonzalez - LIFE ACCORDING TO ME : That Person!: That person walking beside you might be wondering why or how to carry on? That person who gave you a bad look, might not have even been look...
That Person!
That person walking beside you might be wondering why or how to carry on? That person who gave you a bad look, might not have even been looking at you he might be seeing his / her situation. That person that was rude to you might be crying for help. That person who stormed out pushing you as they left might be in desperation as their world collapses around them.
It is easy for us to judge others, disregard them, and label them as losers or worse. Yet looking into their eyes and seeing the pain is much harder. Why? It’s harder because we tend to be caught up on what we felt when we encountered that person, we focused on the discomfort we felt rather than noticing their pain. If we put down our ego and understood people hurt we might be able to make a difference. That person might not even realize how they are perceived; chances are they are walking in their darkness, its all they see and all they feel. They can’t enjoy life, they can’t perceive happiness, and they are lost in darkness.
We might not be able to take away their pain, but we can be that glimpse of hope. Sometimes that person just needs to be seen, accepted. Our smile might be that ray of hope they need. Kindness might warm their heart; small conversation might break the ice. A compliment might replace hurtful words they are used to hearing.
We can choose to be abrupt and give them a piece of our mind, or we can choose to be a healer, to give kindness, to share light. We never know what is going on inside that person who we encounter, you just might be the light that they need to find their way, and you might be the hand that helps them hold on rather than quitting on life.
It is easy for us to judge others, disregard them, and label them as losers or worse. Yet looking into their eyes and seeing the pain is much harder. Why? It’s harder because we tend to be caught up on what we felt when we encountered that person, we focused on the discomfort we felt rather than noticing their pain. If we put down our ego and understood people hurt we might be able to make a difference. That person might not even realize how they are perceived; chances are they are walking in their darkness, its all they see and all they feel. They can’t enjoy life, they can’t perceive happiness, and they are lost in darkness.
We might not be able to take away their pain, but we can be that glimpse of hope. Sometimes that person just needs to be seen, accepted. Our smile might be that ray of hope they need. Kindness might warm their heart; small conversation might break the ice. A compliment might replace hurtful words they are used to hearing.
We can choose to be abrupt and give them a piece of our mind, or we can choose to be a healer, to give kindness, to share light. We never know what is going on inside that person who we encounter, you just might be the light that they need to find their way, and you might be the hand that helps them hold on rather than quitting on life.
Friday, February 28, 2014
An Angel Came to Visit By Anna Lee
T’was the night before Christmas we
were destined to bump into her at the grocery store and a Christmas miracle
would there, unfold ~ An angel came to
visit ~After the power came back, hubby and I rushed out to do some grocery shopping before the stores became crazy busy, being so close to Christmas and all ......and there we bumped into his niece....We hadn't seen Candice in a little over a year. She went on to tell us she moved out of her dad's house and on her own and also mentioned she'd visited with some relatives last Christmas, where she'd gotten hold of some family photos. Andy (my hubby) lost his only box of family photos to a basement flood shortly before he and his brothers sold the family house. I asked her to please send me the photos she had and sure enough they just arrived on e-mail.....
Pictures of his mom and dad, toasting around a Christmas tree.....Perfect!
So, for the time being, I printed one and framed it for my hunny ...And so the Christmas Miracle became …. Andy's mom passed on Christmas Eve so, this was even more...well, I'll use the word eerie, but an angel came back in the form of his niece to bring mom back into his life, if even just in the form of her picture...I'd never met her, but Andy looks just like her !
The kind of gift you can't put a price on, the kind of chance meeting you could have never planned and the picture by chance, around a Christmas tree, being so close to Christmas of the two dearest people..... and one of them coming back now, so close to the day she left…. Amen
They say hindsight is 20/20.
They say hindsight is 20/20.
Well, that may be, but what I’d like to know is, who exactly is this they, and are they absolutely certain of this? Looking back at all that has transpired; could they have done what our family has done? Could they have tolerated the tremendous sacrifices? Could they have acted as quickly and bravely, and had the same outcome? Maybe…but, then again, no one can look back at a situation and say for a fact that had they done it differently, the result would've been better. Life has a way of leveling the playing field, no matter what the circumstances, and there’s no such thing as home field advantage when you’re competing with the variables of life; that’s what makes it so scary, so exciting, and so very precious. Especially, when it concerns those you love.
Family, by one definition, is a group with something in common. I fear that’s far too vague a description by our example. Family is born, of the heart, of the soul, and of the mind; it’s in the point and counterpoint of a pulse, the likeness and divergence of thought, and the passion and formality of a cause. Family is acceptance outside of understanding, with a tough and unconditional bond that spans beyond blood, beyond bone, and beyond life itself. By our definition, family is simple; you have only to look at us to see the true meaning of the word.That’s something that I think even they could benefit from, but couldn't possibly ever understand.
Well, that may be, but what I’d like to know is, who exactly is this they, and are they absolutely certain of this? Looking back at all that has transpired; could they have done what our family has done? Could they have tolerated the tremendous sacrifices? Could they have acted as quickly and bravely, and had the same outcome? Maybe…but, then again, no one can look back at a situation and say for a fact that had they done it differently, the result would've been better. Life has a way of leveling the playing field, no matter what the circumstances, and there’s no such thing as home field advantage when you’re competing with the variables of life; that’s what makes it so scary, so exciting, and so very precious. Especially, when it concerns those you love.
Family, by one definition, is a group with something in common. I fear that’s far too vague a description by our example. Family is born, of the heart, of the soul, and of the mind; it’s in the point and counterpoint of a pulse, the likeness and divergence of thought, and the passion and formality of a cause. Family is acceptance outside of understanding, with a tough and unconditional bond that spans beyond blood, beyond bone, and beyond life itself. By our definition, family is simple; you have only to look at us to see the true meaning of the word.That’s something that I think even they could benefit from, but couldn't possibly ever understand.
 |
| Deborah Cotahttp://www.dantechronicles.com/My-Books.html |
Saturday, February 1, 2014
What would you tell your Son or Daughter?
If a son or daughter were struggling with a goal, would you tell them to do their best without much expectation? Would you tell them to give it their all no matter what? Or, would you tell them not to waste their time? Chances are, you would tell them to give it their all.....chances are you would want them to dream big and you would wish them success. Why? Because you want them to have more than you've had.
Do you agree? If you answered "yes", then why don't you take your own advice? Why don't you choose to dream big and fight for your dreams? Why don't you commit to giving it your all without accepting the option of quitting?
Feeling defeated happens.....we all have those moments. At times it feels as if what we are doing is not working. We feel confused, weak and uncertain about today and our future. We find ourselves fearing that our past will forever be our present. Yet, this is not true, it's our fears that make it feel this way. We must recognize these emotions and get real good at bouncing back, we need to get real good at rising up after each fall. We need to choose to push back and fight for whatever it is we want. We won't have a step by step guide for how to create the life we want, yet every step we take towards our goals helps us get closer, helps us get stronger, helps us achieve clarity and make wiser choices
It's time you take the advice you would want your children to take. It's time you start believing you can do more and choose to push forward no matter what. By doing this, not only will you get better, you will also set the example for your kids to follow when life gets a bit challenging.
The path to clarity starts right here...
"Connecting the Dots - Road to Clarity" order it today!
http://www.eileengonzalezlifeaccordingtome.com/#!services/c5ro
Do you agree? If you answered "yes", then why don't you take your own advice? Why don't you choose to dream big and fight for your dreams? Why don't you commit to giving it your all without accepting the option of quitting?
Feeling defeated happens.....we all have those moments. At times it feels as if what we are doing is not working. We feel confused, weak and uncertain about today and our future. We find ourselves fearing that our past will forever be our present. Yet, this is not true, it's our fears that make it feel this way. We must recognize these emotions and get real good at bouncing back, we need to get real good at rising up after each fall. We need to choose to push back and fight for whatever it is we want. We won't have a step by step guide for how to create the life we want, yet every step we take towards our goals helps us get closer, helps us get stronger, helps us achieve clarity and make wiser choices
It's time you take the advice you would want your children to take. It's time you start believing you can do more and choose to push forward no matter what. By doing this, not only will you get better, you will also set the example for your kids to follow when life gets a bit challenging.
The path to clarity starts right here...
"Connecting the Dots - Road to Clarity" order it today!
http://www.eileengonzalezlifeaccordingtome.com/#!services/c5ro
Friday, January 31, 2014
Replace your Defeated mentality with a Warrior mentality.
When this happens we dig our hole even deeper, with every negative word we speak over our lives, we go deeper into our darkness. Those that want to motivate us will try to speak light into our lives, yet we are so blinded by the darkness that we will push them away. We will think ill of them, we will get vicious with our words because after all "It is clear we are defeated and anyone that can't see it must be blind or stupid".
Well, they're not, they are not blind or stupid, they are just seeing our issues from an outside perspective.
They are not consumed by pain so they are trying to lift us up and cheer us on toward a better path. Yet for us to accept that motivation we must believe that we deserve better. You might be thinking, "You don't know me, no one will come to motivate me". You might be right, not everyone has someone on their side cheering them on and in that case you need to be your biggest cheerleader. How? You must believe you deserve better, you must know in your heart that you can do more. You must tap into your inner strength and choose to move forward even if you do not have all the answers or a clear path.
Think about this.....when we allow ourselves to be defeated, we give up. When we give up, we not only give up on ourselves, we give up on our loved ones. Now, let me ask you, if you give up on your loved ones, who will be there for them? If you are not around to create the change that can get yourself and your loved ones back on track, who will?
We all go through problems, we all have heartache and fears. Yet we all have the potential of doing a little more. I can't tell you what you need to do, how you need to do it or what you need to aim for. Only you can define it and only you can decide to fight for it. But I am here to tell you that you deserve much more. You were not meant to live defeated, you are not meant to live broken. You were meant to succeed. Success? Yes, you are meant for success and success is defined by you. It is not what I think or what anyone else thinks or wants....it's what makes you happy, what fulfills you and empowers you to create the life you envisioned for you and your loved ones.
Do yourself a favor, push aside that defeated mentality, reclaim your life. A warrior can't get into the ring if he already believes he lost the fight. A warrior must go in with all he has, he must give it all for the shot at success
Replace your defeated mentality with a warrior mentality. You deserve better!
Thursday, January 30, 2014
Time to Reinvent Ourselves!
 |
| http://www.lifeaccordingtome.biz |
One thing that makes it more difficult especially for the seasoned employee is that at times we spend years doing the same type of job. Some are current with new skills and training's, however some are not given the opportunity for continued education, training & development. This puts us at a disadvantage in a job market in which there is more unemployed candidates than available jobs. The employer is able to pick & choose thus requiring or demanding that a candidate have more skills than previously necessary for the same job. All who are unemployed today can attest to this, the requirements have increased while the salaries have decreased.
What can one do? Well, for many, accepting pay cuts is a must even though that will keep them broke. This will leave them having to require help from the government or working 2 or 3 jobs which not only is a burden to their families, it also takes a toll on our health.
You might be reading this and you might not relate to any of this. Yet you might know someone that does, or you might be hearing of possible layoffs at your own company. That alone is a reason for many to feel uneasy. So, let me ask you; "Should we just wait around for things to maybe get better, or should we make a decision to reinvent ourselves and create more opportunity?"
Our skills may be outdated, our physical endurance, our "back" may not be as strong as it once was, a divorce might have forced us to change careers, it happens, yet these situations as hard as they may seem might also bring forth opportunity. It can force us to look at our situation and seek options that can take us on another path, a path of hope.
Assess your situation, look at your options. Define things that you can do, which may include dreams you've had and you never dared pursue. Look into those ideas, find out what is required from you to get started. Seek counsel from those that are doing what you are interested in exploring. When things don't go your way, its not time to give up and feel sorry for yourself, it's time to re-assess your situation and reinvent yourself setting forth a new path that can open doors you never imagined were possible.
Just because what was changes, does not mean it's over. It just means, it's time to expand!
Wednesday, January 29, 2014
Shame was my TRUE problem
 |
| http://www.eileengonzalez.net/ |
When I look at my life I see I have come very far, I have learned so much and I have changed who I am and how I do things. As much as “shame” played a huge role in my life, I also must acknowledge that it is the driving force behind the fire in my heart. Whenever I feel pain, whenever I feel fear, I think back at that shame as my enemy, as the enemy which I will never allow to take control again. It was shame that kept me in fear, it was shame that made me withdraw, it was shame that kept me from my loved ones and it was shame that made me feel as a failure.
I can’t undo the past, and the truth is that if given the chance I would probably not take it. Why? because even though I still have ways to go, the person I am today is a much better version of the person I was. The person I am today stands tall even in adversity while the old I could not take the pain.
Why do I share this with you today? I share this because my problems were financial issues, lack of confidence, overweight, relationships…….I had all the labels for my problems, yet they really all went back to SHAME.
We need to understand our true pain, and use that pain to push ourselves toward recovery. Until we face the TRUE problem, until we understand it, we are not able to create the change we so desperately need. Things may never get back to normal, relationships may never be the same, we might not even recognize who we become, yet we must keep moving in faith knowing that we are on the journey of our lives…..the journey to fulfill our purpose, to make a difference in our lives and in the lives of others.
Sunday, January 26, 2014
Opportunity Monday
 |
| http://www.eileengonzalez.net/ |
For some, Monday's are simply dreadful, we head back to work to the same job we don't enjoy and with the same expectations we had the prior week. The truth is that when we look at Monday's in this light; we can't help but create more of the same. We do so by preparing our minds to be uncomfortable.
How can we expect to have a good week, if we are mentally prepared to to see it go downhill? How can we expect to do well, when we are already thinking, speaking and acting defeated? If we want to see our week take off in the right direction we need to change how we feel about Monday's.
We need to look at it as a new opportunity. Not only is it a new day, it's a new week. Therefore no matter what went wrong or what did not happen the prior week, we get to start over on Monday. We can create this new day according to our vision. We can decide that we will learn from failure, that we will think, speak and act in a positive light and that we will keep moving forward no matter what.
If we want to begin to change our lives and bring positive attention our way, we will need to do so with our actions. Yet, our actions follow our words, which follow our thoughts. Therefore change how you think and you will be on your way to change your life.
From now on refer to your Monday's as Opportunity Monday! Your attitude toward this day, will set the path for the rest of your week.
Friday, January 17, 2014
Should I quit? Should I just give up and stop dreaming?
 |
| https://www.facebook.com/lifeaccordtome |
Should I just give up and stop dreaming?
There are times that we can't help but wonder if we are doing the right thing or on the right path. We wonder if we got what it takes to achieve our goals. This is a common feeling, it's not limited to you. In fact everyone at some point will be plagued with doubt of some sort. It's OK to feel this way yet it's not OK to cave in to this negative chatter. This is why we must achieve clarity in life, because it will be that CLARITY which will guide us on our way when challenges arise.
Challenges such as money, self doubt, lack of support, lack of schooling or training will come our way and can stop us on our tracks "IF WE LET THEM". Yet for some, when these challenges arise, they simply get creative. They look for ways to make ends meet while they continue to pursue their dreams.
You might be thinking, "how are we going to pursue our dreams if we are broke and making ends meet? Simple, most likely being broke did not happen all of a sudden, therefore it's not a new event. Therefore rather than losing sleep over something that already existed, we lose sleep over the change we are looking to create. You might think, "impossible". Yet not so fast! You see, when we focus on creating change, we are creating opportunity. The same opportunity that can help us resolve those issues that have plagued us for so long.
I know about this topic very well, because the majority of my issues in life have been due to financial mistakes. I know very well what it feels like to be broke, delay one payment to send another. I know very well how it feels to not have enough money to buy groceries. These are real, painful situations...yet I also know that I had two choices. I could have stayed doing the same and getting the same results or I could re-invent myself and create new opportunities that could help me put the past behind once and for all.
Am I there yet? NOPE, but I am closer than I was. Even though I still have ways to go, I am stronger, faster and more open to new things. I welcome change, I invite new experiences and I crave expansion and growth. When we choose to re-invent ourselves we are not choosing a path that is foreign to us. We simply accept the path that we have felt in our hearts and feared give life. We simply choose to go for it and push our way to seeing how far we can go.
How far should we go before we quit? We push, push, push and when we feel we can't push any further, WE PUSH SOME MORE. Quitting is not an option, not on something so important as improving the quality of your life.
Eileen Gonzalez - Life According to Me
https://www.facebook.com/lifeaccordtome
I know about this topic very well, because the majority of my issues in life have been due to financial mistakes. I know very well what it feels like to be broke, delay one payment to send another. I know very well how it feels to not have enough money to buy groceries. These are real, painful situations...yet I also know that I had two choices. I could have stayed doing the same and getting the same results or I could re-invent myself and create new opportunities that could help me put the past behind once and for all.
Am I there yet? NOPE, but I am closer than I was. Even though I still have ways to go, I am stronger, faster and more open to new things. I welcome change, I invite new experiences and I crave expansion and growth. When we choose to re-invent ourselves we are not choosing a path that is foreign to us. We simply accept the path that we have felt in our hearts and feared give life. We simply choose to go for it and push our way to seeing how far we can go.
How far should we go before we quit? We push, push, push and when we feel we can't push any further, WE PUSH SOME MORE. Quitting is not an option, not on something so important as improving the quality of your life.
Eileen Gonzalez - Life According to Me
https://www.facebook.com/lifeaccordtome
Saturday, January 4, 2014
The Stranger within - The Real Me!
When I look into the mirror I see a stranger, a strong, solid individual. Someone who will stand up and face adversity, someone who is not fazed by much. Yet how did this person appear. who let her out? Why was this person not present earlier in my life?
This stranger was no stranger, in fact, this stranger was the real ME, the me from within, the person I was meant to be yet I feared to unleash. The person who could create the life I was meant to live yet I had her locked up and forced her to conform to the ideas of others. This stranger from within came to rescue me in my darkest moments, she broke free from the chains I had forged for her, she unsealed her lips and spoke up, she lifted me up and helped me rise from the ashes. This stranger represents freedom, life, love, spirituality, this stranger is me....the real me.
When I look into the mirror I realize that it took hitting rock bottom and almost losing myself to force me to unlock the real me.......to find my strength.
When I look into the mirror I realize that it took hitting rock bottom and almost losing myself to force me to unlock the real me.......to find my strength.
There is someone within you that is ready to come out. This person is the real you, your strength, your rock. It is who can take you from where you are to where you want to be. If you are feeling lost, you need to look within and allow yourself to be free. It's time you unleash the real you, that you allow your voice to be heard, its time you start to live the life you were meant to live.
Today as I look into the mirror I can't help but wonder, who was the real stranger, the Me that emerged or the Me who I endured for so many years?
Today as I look into the mirror I can't help but wonder, who was the real stranger, the Me that emerged or the Me who I endured for so many years?
Friday, January 3, 2014
My Life Sucks!
My Life Sucks! How many times have you heard someone say this, or have you said this out loud? Life gets hard at times and it will test our endurance. It will push us against a corner and see how much fight we still have within us. Let's face it, there are times that crap just comes our way. Yet, those are the times we need to make a conscious decision to fight for our lives. To fight for our right to have peace and freedom.
When we cave into our pain, to our misery, we are making it easy for the evil to set in. We are making the job of the devil much easier as he does not have to do much to keep us at bay, he just has to show a memory or two of our mistakes, or whisper a word of fear into our ear and we are stuck.....stuck in a prison tailor made for us. Actually we made that prison for ourselves. We built the walls every time we accepted defeat, every time we allowed ourselves to be victimized, every time that we felt sorry for ourselves. For some of us that prison is built overnight...we put in overtime into the building of such. For others that prison is built through years of struggling between good and bad feelings and ultimately losing the battle. Yet this prison we built for ourselves is the worst prison of all, its that way because we can actually choose to walk out of it at anytime. You see, there is no judge or jury, the cell is not even locked, all we have to do is push the gate open and out we go. Yet we don't, we sit in the center of our cell feeling as a failure. We feel that life can't get any worse. We question our existence, our purpose, we even question if God exists or even remembers us.
Life can be tough, and it will challenge us. However through those challenges we are learning, we are growing. Through the pain we are getting stronger, faster and wiser.
When we cave into our pain, to our misery, we are making it easy for the evil to set in. We are making the job of the devil much easier as he does not have to do much to keep us at bay, he just has to show a memory or two of our mistakes, or whisper a word of fear into our ear and we are stuck.....stuck in a prison tailor made for us. Actually we made that prison for ourselves. We built the walls every time we accepted defeat, every time we allowed ourselves to be victimized, every time that we felt sorry for ourselves. For some of us that prison is built overnight...we put in overtime into the building of such. For others that prison is built through years of struggling between good and bad feelings and ultimately losing the battle. Yet this prison we built for ourselves is the worst prison of all, its that way because we can actually choose to walk out of it at anytime. You see, there is no judge or jury, the cell is not even locked, all we have to do is push the gate open and out we go. Yet we don't, we sit in the center of our cell feeling as a failure. We feel that life can't get any worse. We question our existence, our purpose, we even question if God exists or even remembers us.
Life can be tough, and it will challenge us. However through those challenges we are learning, we are growing. Through the pain we are getting stronger, faster and wiser.
My Life Sucks......only if I allow it too. When life gets hard, I choose to get harder.....When life pushes me to a corner, I choose to push back.
How about you?
How about you?
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)