Thursday, January 19, 2012

Think Again

We have a responsibility with those who surround us.
If you think that you hurt no one when you let yourself down, when you short yourself from opportunities, THINK AGAIN. Your actions do not only affect have the potential to inspire someone to be better or convince someone that nothing they do in life matters.

You owe it to yourself and to those around you to be the best version of yourself.
Our lives are intertwined.......we are all connected......let's stop thinking we are in this life by ourselves and begin acting responsibly and accountable for our actions.

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Burning desire

You have a desire to do something i life, and you talk yourself out of it.
You then observe someone else doing what you wanted to do but chose to put off.
  1. How did they do it?
  2. Are they smarter than me?
  3. Do they have more potential than me?
  4. I can never do that......right?
If you have a burning desire to do something, its meant for me, that desire is a push to
get you moving in that direction.   If you had no chance at success, you insides would not be pushing you toward it.  

Decide to give life to your dreams, your desires........Dare take a chance on you

LIfe is a Journey

Life does not just happen,  we have an important role to play. 
  1. Birth
  2. Childhood
  3. Teens
  4. Adulthood
  5. Work
  6. Beliefs
  7. Marriage
  8. Family
  9. Mid life
  10. Grand kids
  11. Retirement
  12. Senior Citizen
  13. Death
I might have skipped some steps, yet I am sure you get the picture.....our life is a journey
which is in constant movement.  We are constantly changing, learning, and making decisions. We have a responsibility on this journey to make wise choices and take care of our destiny.  We alone are responsible for what happens our young adult life.  There is a point in our life where we need to become accountable and accept that our decision create our future. 

If you are thinking,  I am too young to think about my Senior years, then think again.  Today, right now you are making the decisions that will affect your future.   You don't need to focus on your old age, but you do need to focus today on making the right choices.

This can only happen by you getting clear on WHO YOU ARE and WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE.right now, your journey of life will continue and soon you will be face to face with your tomorrow regretting your choices.

I am not here to tell you how to create your life or what you should want,  that is all up to you.
But I am here to tell you that your choices should be made TODAY......Right Now is the time

Your life is a Journey.......Make sure you plan the trip

Friday, January 13, 2012

Being Accountable

In life we have experience situations in where we either make bad choices or simply don't know how to
cope with whatever is happening.   This week I had the experience in where I had to come face to face with a bad choice I made.    I decided to own it, and not make excuses.  I knew I had done wrong, and I was going to be accountable whatever that meant.   Well,. it got a bit hairy but being accountable paid off.  I was able to walk away with minimum consequence which was indeed a blessing.

Being accountable might not seem easy as sometimes our issues seem to be bigger than we can handle.
However being accountable makes you stronger, takes you out of the victim mentality and you and those around you, regardless of their opinion will respect you for your attitude.

Make a choice,  choose to be accountable for your actions!

Saturday, January 7, 2012

God only gives you what he thinks you deserve. Really??

God only gives you what he thinks you deserve.  Really??    I have a problem with that statement

It's funny how when we do not achieve our goals we find comfort in saying:
         "It was probably not meant to be"
         "God has another plan for me"
         "What's meant to be is meant to be"
         "Careful what you wish for"

There might be some truth to the above excuses yet we don't know that.  We should not be quick to
use excuses, when in fact we are failing to get clear on what it is we want.

Call it GOD, or the UNIVERSE or any other name you might have for your higher source,  if you are not clear on what you want and are constantly sending mixed messages you will not get what you really want or need.  
You are entitled to having what you want in life as long as what you want does not take from another, hurt another or try to control another.   You are entitled to getting that which you want but you need to know clearly what that is.

See my posting  " Failure to Launch"

Failure to Launch

Are you familiar with the saying, " If you fail to plan, you plan to fail"? 
There are times we want something in our lives yet we stop at the wanting phase, and think we are
now ready to make it happen.   If it were that easy we all would have what we want without any effort.

Wanting is the first step, however there are two key parts needed in any goal.

1-  Want /Need   (Get clear on what you want in your life and why)    =  Goals
2-  Believe in your ability to attain   (Have faith in your higher source and in yourself)
3-  Action / Move forward (Set your plan in motion)

It's three for three......your goals depend on how you use these steps.

Do this exercise on paper.  

I did this exercise and it took several attempts until I was finally clear on what I wanted.
At first you think you have an idea or think you know what you want,  however once you begin this exercise you will find that you really were not as clear on what you wanted. 

example:  My husband wants every expensive car he sees....he is like a kid
Oh look at that, I want that Ferrari,   Did you see that,  I want that truck,  Oh I am going to get..............
He loves cars and if he had the money he would aim for Jay Leno's garage...hahaha

However that is not what he truly wants......maybe in a world with more than enough money that could be his goal, however in his current situation its not.  In his current situation he must think of what type of car does he need and why,  and see if it meets his other criteria, etc.   He can buy the car / truck he wants but at this point in his life it will be that one vehicle.

The exercise of being clear is filtering out your likes from your wants and focusing on achieving the latter.
This is a fun game,  and you can do it every day to see if your thoughts have changed or once a do this until you look at your page and see no need for further change.   At that time, you are ready to set your plan in motion.

Tuesday, January 3, 2012 you have a plan and are ready to move forward and WHAM.....something unexpected happens.
What do you do now?   Well one thing is for sure, you can't throw your hands up in the air and move away from your path.   Things happen and sometimes they don't seem to make sense, you might get frustrated however you need to keep moving forward.   Take time to reassess your situation, and make any type of  adjustment to your plan....then get right back on your path....don't waste another minute as you have work to do, making your life better.

Monday, January 2, 2012

Unexpected Detour

I love the Allstate commercial with the guy acting as the GPS " recalculating" 

You will find times in where you are focused on your goals " new path" and are surprised by a unexpected detour.  What do you do?   Well, we all have to deal with these detours yet these should not take us completely off our path.   Think of your journey as the open road, and use your GPS :)  When a detour comes across, deal with it and Recalculate......find an alternative road and get back on your journey.  

Unexpected detours are temporary and as with any temporary situation it too shall pass.

Sunday, January 1, 2012

Farewell to 2011 - Welcome 2012

2011 was a special year in my life as well as for my husband.  All the mistakes we made throughout the years came together and exploded in 2011 leaving us with no where to go, no options, no hope, no way out, "or so we thought".  In the midst of darkness and desperation, rose an inner strength I did not know I had.  I was awakened to all that was around me and open to new things, new thoughts, new ways.  I had become open to "trying"  It's funny as I use the word "trying", I always said " I tried this or that", yet I was afraid of really trying.  I was afraid of the "what if " which kept me stuck in the "what I know".   The problem with that mentality was that the "I know" was not good or promising.  I needed to realize that where I was at the time could not continue to be.  I could no longer continue that path of destruction; as I was hurting not just myself, or our marriage but our family.   My husband and I made many mistakes as a couple however it was important for me to become accountable and to identify the mistakes made and take ownership of them.  Taking ownership of the mistakes and the recovery was essential for me as this empowered me.  Once I did this,  I felt stronger to take on the issues and to help my husband through the process.  2011 left us with huge scars,  however it left us with the strength, wisdom and determination to make things right.  As I look back at this year I will forever be grateful for the lessons learned and the road map forged in tears of pain, frustration as well as excitement of promise and determination to achieve the new goals in 2012. 

The Law of Attraction says that like attracts like, and that whatever emotion or thought you send out to the universe, you will get more of.  I believe this statement with all my heart.    I spent too many years playing the blame game and feeling sorry for our situation, never thinking we would get ahead.  Thus getting more of what I believed to be true (more misery).   

2012 is a promising year, today is the first day of the year and we have a road map to get us where we want / need to be. We are equipped for the journey knowing that this new year will be as great as we make it.  Nothing will come to us without our effort and determination.   I am excited about what is coming our way,
I am excited of the new skills I will learn, the new opportunities that will arise and of the new person (Me) that will surface out of all these experiences.  

I am aware of the debris that I still have to remove from the 2011 storms (mistakes)  yet I am focused on the present goals not the left over debris.   As I move forward and attain each goal the debris will begin to clear away,  

If you are in a similar situation and trying to make a change in your life.  Know three steps that you must be ready to follow

1-  Identify who you are and what you want in 2012
2-  Believe that you  a-deserve it   b-are capable of attaining
3-  Move forward toward your goals 

You need all three steps.  You can't work on a goal if you are not clear on why you really want it and if you don't believe in your abilities.   You must go three for three in this process.  

If you do not believe or trust in your abilities you are emitting lack of trust in yourself, thus increasing the doubt in your abilities.  Remember we believe what we see, and when we convince ourselves of lack,  we can only see lack.